Encounters With Resistance During Clutter Clearing
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Most of us would like to think that we are not standing in our own way, that we are not responsible for our seeming inability to move forward to the next level of growth or success. I am one of those people. I like to think that I’m doing all I can to keep growing, evolving and succeeding. But I ran into my own resistance head on this past weekend while in the process of rearranging and clearing out my office in preparation for the launch of a new program in April.
I had been feeling somewhat uncomfortable in my office for several months, a sure sign that change is in the wind. I’m sure I was feeling growing pains because I was preparing to take my business in a new direction. It will take courage and a lot of work to make this program a success. When things shifted internally, due to preparations for the new program, I felt the urge to shift things in my space. I also needed a new configuration that would allow me to very easily make short informational videos at my computer. That need was a primary impetus for my office transformation.
This past Saturday I spent over seven hours rearranging my office. I cleared out my storage cabinet, closet, desk drawers, and my book shelf. My van was completely packed with items to donate and recycle. Three bags of books and numerous bags of office supplies and clothing went to Goodwill. All of that stuff was disposed of that day. And, I carefully set up my office for ease in doing all the tasks I normally do, like write, scan photos, refer to books, and fill book orders, plus a the new task of making videos. I was so ready for this clearing!I expected to feel high as a kite the next day, as I had following previous clearings. Releasing static items that are no longer loved or used can free up enormous amounts of energy, the energy that those items were holding. However, instead of feeling energized, I was irritable and out of sorts, struggling with negative thoughts and self-doubt. Fortunately I resisted the urge to blame my husband for my mood, something I’m not proud to admit that I’ve done in the past. Can’t deal with what’s going on inside me? Who else can I blame? Can’t be the dogs. Must be Bob! Poor Bob!
Well, this time I stopped and asked myself what was going on. What was I struggling with? Sure, there was more cleaning up to do following my clearing. Yes, I was tired from the effort. But, those weren’t the reasons for feeling off balance. As I spent time in my head, pondering the possibilities, and consulting with my heart, I realized that I felt scared. Yes, scared. Having cleared my office and having set it up for success, there was nothing standing between me and the successful launch of my program except my fearful thinking. The path was clear. I was ready. But, a part of me, the part of me that for some reason is afraid of success or that doubts my ability to be successful, reared it’s ugly head in the form of moodiness and irritability. It was my own inner resistance that was plaguing me.
I ran into my resistance following a clearing. Resistance can also occur in the midst of the clearing process. I recently encountered it with a client who repeatedly responded, “I don’t know” to my questions about what she wanted to do with objects we were moving in our attempt to clear her dining room. She too was very irritable as we worked together to clear clutter from the walkways of her home. In previous sessions she had been enthusiastic and helpful when clearing other areas of her house. This was a side of her I had never encountered. After some discussion about what was troubling her, she told me that she had been looking forward to my arrival and my help. Her mood surprised and baffled her. It also helped her see that perhaps a part of her is attached to the chaos and was resisting the change. If she gets her house in order, then what?
What I learned from my experience with resistance and that of my client is that chaos, not having what you want, and living below your potential can become familiar states that we sometimes unconsciously work to keep in place. For some of us, being unfulfilled, unhappy, playing small or wanting what we don’t have are the “known.” The “known” feels safe. The unknown feels scary. If you don’t identify your fear, name it, face it and take steps to move through it, you’ll keep spinning your wheels with the ducks in the mud instead of flying high in the sky with the eagles.
It’s time to wash the mud off my wings so I can take off and join those eagles. Toward that end I’ve chosen a new paint color and fabric for custom draperies by Dale Keator of , an outstanding collage artist and fabricator. This is a first for me. I’m creating a space for success. And, I’m committed to the process of taking steps through the fear to the light on the other side.
Can you recognize your resistance? It can and often will show up during the clutter clearing process! What face does it wear? What does it whisper in your ear? You too can turn down its volume and make choices for growth and forward movement. The fear won’t kill you. Allowing it to impede your progress could starve your soul and deprive the world of your great gifts and their expression. What step will you take today to move through your fear? Tell me about it!
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Debbie Bowie is passionate about helping people move forward with their lives. For eight years Debbie was principal of Simply Organized. She is now the founder and executive director of Rock Scissors Paper Institute and is committed to teaching people how making simple changes to their environment will result in amazing changes in their lives!
